It arrives first
The reaction is often ahead of the thought, which is why talking yourself out of it rarely works for long.
Our approach
Understanding first.
Then the work.
If the same feelings keep returning no matter how much you understand about them, that is not a failure of effort or of faith. It may simply mean that the difficulty is being held at a deeper emotional level, one that talking and analysing alone cannot always reach.
What EFT is
Emotional Freedom Techniques, without the jargon
EFT is often called the tapping technique. You bring to mind something that is troubling you and, while holding it in awareness, tap lightly with your fingertips on a short sequence of points on the face and upper body.
The idea is straightforward. Thinking about something difficult can trigger a stress response in the body. Tapping is used alongside this process with the aim of helping that response settle, so the difficulty can be approached with less emotional intensity.
Some people find that the memory or worry does not disappear, but it no longer arrives with the same force. This can create more space to think about, pray about and respond to what is happening more clearly.
Research into EFT is growing and has produced encouraging findings, although the evidence base and our understanding of how it works are still developing. We use EFT as an approach that may support emotional wellbeing, not as a treatment or cure for any medical or mental health condition.
Why it keeps coming back
Your reactions made sense once
Your brain and nervous system learn from experience. When something frightening, humiliating or overwhelming happens, they can form powerful associations with what was happening around you. If something similar appears again, your protective response may activate quickly, sometimes before you have consciously recognised why.
The difficulty is that these learned responses do not always fade simply because time has passed. Years later, a tone of voice, a particular room or even a familiar situation can bring back the sense of danger, and the reaction can arrive before you have had much say in it.
It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong with you. It may simply be an old alarm responding to information that is no longer relevant to the situation you are in today.
It generalises
Something only loosely similar to the original moment can be enough to set the same response going.
It can settle
Given safety, patience and the right kind of attention, what was learned can be revisited and can quieten.
Whole person
Spirit, soul and body, held together
Sometimes understanding something in your mind does not settle what you feel in your body. And sometimes calming the body does not resolve the thoughts or beliefs that keep pulling you back.
Here, we make space for the whole person (spirit, soul and body) rather than separating one from the other. Because each is part of how you experience your life, your relationships and your faith.
Spirit
The part of you that knows who God says you are. When shame or fear has been loud for a long time, that truth can feel distant even when you believe it. This work makes room for it to become real again rather than simply agreed with.
Soul
Your mind, your will and your emotions. This is where beliefs are stored, where old conclusions about yourself keep getting confirmed, and where the same painful thought can arrive before you have chosen it.
Body
Your nervous system carries what you have lived through. Tight chest, held breath, the flinch before a difficult conversation. The body often remembers a threat long after the mind has explained it away.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
In a session
What a session looks like
No two sessions are exactly the same. We work with what you bring and at a pace that feels manageable for you. This is not a script, but it gives you an idea of what to expect, particularly if EFT is new to you.
You set the pace
You remain in control throughout the session. You do not have to share anything you are not ready to talk about, and we will not push you to go further than you want to. You can pause, slow down or change direction at any time.
We identify what is happening
Together, we begin to understand what is troubling you. We may explore the situation, the thoughts and emotions connected to it, and what you notice happening in your body.
Rather than trying to tackle everything at once, we usually focus on something specific that we can work with together.
We use tapping
While bringing the difficulty gently to mind, you tap with your fingertips on a short sequence of acupressure points on the face and upper body.
It can feel a little unusual at first, and I will guide you through the process. We regularly pause to notice how you are responding and adjust the pace if needed.
We notice what changes
As we work, we pay attention to what happens to the thoughts, feelings and physical sensations you started with.
Sometimes the emotional intensity reduces. Sometimes a different thought, feeling or memory becomes noticeable. And sometimes very little changes at first. There is no particular response you are expected to have.
The aim is not to erase what happened, but to help you relate to it with less distress and greater freedom.
Faith, if you want it
If faith is important to you, prayer and Scripture can be naturally included in the session where they are helpful and appropriate.
They are never imposed. If you would prefer to work without explicitly Christian elements, that is completely respected.
Always yours
What you never have to do
There are some things people understandably worry they might be asked to do in a session. None of them are required. You remain in control throughout, and you can always say no, pause or change your mind.
Consent is also ongoing rather than one-off. Agreeing to something once does not commit you to it later, and you can change your mind at any point. Before your first session you will be sent a consent form to read and sign, which sets all of this out in full.
You do not have to tell the story
You are never asked to describe an event in detail. Safety comes before disclosure, and it is entirely possible to work with a difficulty without narrating what happened.
You do not have to pray
Faith is part of this practice and it is offered openly, but it is never a condition of being helped. If you would rather prayer and scripture stayed out of a session, say so and that is simply respected.
You do not have to continue
You can slow down, pause, or stop at any point, including partway through a session, and you do not have to give a reason for it.
Being clear
What this is, and what it is not
You deserve to know exactly what you are considering before you book anything.
If you are in crisis or at risk of harm, please contact your GP or the emergency services. This site is not a crisis service and cannot respond urgently.
A coaching practice
Not a clinical or medical service
Claire and Rosie are EFT practitioners and coaches. They do not diagnose, treat or prescribe, and nothing here replaces medical or mental-health care you are receiving.
Trauma-informed support
Not a trauma re-telling exercise
You are never required to describe an event in detail for the work to help. Safety comes before disclosure, every time.
Openly Christian
Not conditional on your faith
Faith is held with humility. Struggling is never treated as a sign of weak belief, and you are welcome here whatever your position on faith currently is.
Designed to support real change
Not a guarantee of a result
People respond differently and at different speeds. What can be promised is care, honesty and a method used properly, not a fixed outcome.
You can start with a conversation rather than a commitment.
A discovery call is a chance to ask questions and see whether this feels like the right fit, with no obligation to book anything afterwards.